#4 – Doing Better Than Someone Else

newman1Let’s not lie to one another… this feels absolutely fantastic.

Don’t you sit there on your high horse and judge me, pretending you don’t have that person in your life you enjoy doing better than.

Perhaps it’s your brother or sister. Maybe one of your parents. How about an ex? Or maybe just that kid that’s been better than you at everything your whole life.

Everyone has their Lex Luthor. Their Newman. This person is that for you.

The thing about this feeling is that it’s not exactly socially acceptable to admit it. We’ve all been raised, to varying degrees, to believe altruisms like “The best revenge is living well” or “It’s not about being better than someone else, it’s about being better than you were yesterday.”

Here’s the real truth: believing either of those things and also wanting to do better than someone you can’t stand aren’t mutually exclusive feelings.

Sure, I’d like to think I’ve matured as a person and continue to grow as an individual every day… but that doesn’t mean I don’t like sticking it to someone, if only in my mind, when I’m doing better than they are.

Here’s a few things that could happen to you that make you feel like you’re doing better than someone.

  • You get a raise and they don’t.
  • You get a raise that’s better than the raise they got.
  • You are happily dating someone and they are still on Hinge.
  • You are living a great single life and they are in a miserable relationship.
  • Your favorite sports team just whooped their team’s ass.
  • You are in far better shape than they are.
  • You have a better game than they do in (any sport).
  • You look better than they do at a wedding or similar event where people are dressed nicely.

I could go on and on here, but I’ll stop for the sake of time constraints because I think you get the point, no?

Imagine that person you can’t stand and then imagine any of those things happening. If you’re sitting there reading this saying that wouldn’t make you happy either one of two things is true:

  1. You should be put up for beatification by the pope.
  2. You are full of fucking shit.

Polar Opposite of this Feeling?: You think you’ve finally beaten your nemesis at something, you’re convinced of it, and you discover you are oh-so-wrong. It’s like getting to the finish line of a long race only to discover everyone is already done. You lose, you get nothing.

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